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Thursday, February 14, 2013

Three ways to keep love alive

By Arleen Fitzgerald, L.I.C.S.W.


A loving relationship can be one of the great joys of life. You have mutual affection — and feel at ease with each other.

That's not to say it comes easy. Growing and maintaining a healthy partnership requires tender, loving care.

While each couple is different, there are some basic ways to nurture and strengthen your connection. Remember these three T's:

Talk
When couples don't communicate regularly, it can create distance. Maybe you believe your partner should just know what you're thinking — or what would make you happy. But remember, no one — not even someone who knows you best — can read your mind.

Maybe you want your partner to help more around the house. Or, you'd like more time together. Say so. Speak directly and honestly — so that your partner knows what you need.

Be a loving listener, too. You may not always like what you hear. But, responding in a positive way can keep the conversation going. As you talk, avoid hurtful words and actions. You want your relationship to be a safe place to express needs, desires and differences.

That said, not all communication is verbal. For instance, make eye contact when you talk — and don't underestimate the power of a smile.

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